How To Make Friends Like You’re A Human Magnet
They say friends are born and not made. Very true! But for simple talks to blossom into long lasting deep friendship, a little bit of effort is required. Don’t you agree?
That first day of college or a new school is very crucial for all of us. All of us might have gone through this awkward, nervous but and at the same time the exciting first day. You might have wondered then, “did I really face all these difficulties when I found my first friend in the KG sections.”
How To Make Friends?
If you think making friends is not as easy as it was when you were a child then here are few tips for you, because everybody deserves few special people in their lives, who can call you any nickname without annoying you, who can never get you bored with their blabbering, talk silly stuff over the phone for hours and share each other’s joy and sorrows.
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Make the first move
It can be a hey, hello or anything that would start a conversation. Never hesitate to make the first move. You can’t just sit aside and expect him to start the conversation. Be bold and go for it. Come on it is just a ‘hey’ it doesn’t take much effort to say it.
Now if you are the extreme introverted type and find it really difficult to start the conversation, SMILE. This can act as a life saver.
This will let the person know that you are interested in talking to him even though you are actually not talking. And even if you are not the introverted type, smile will only add to your effort.
A little bit of showing off is OK, right?
Absolutely not! You might want to be friends with the cool guys in your class and you might even think these people don’t know you, so there is no harm in lying. Never do that. You are digging your own grave.
Initially you might feel great but in the long run it will turn out to be tiring. True friendship can never blossom from a heap of lies. Be yourself, you are the best that way.
Wait, it’s still not the time to judge
You have just started the conversation don’t you think it is a little too early to judge someone?
Both of you might be from different backgrounds so your views might also be different. Give it some time before you decide, ‘no, she is absolutely not my type’.
When you find group conversations take part in it. Don’t back off. Introduced yourself, get to know as many people as possible. The topic might not be your thing but still take part.
Come on you are not participating in a debate or just a minute competition where you have to speak everything that you have got, remember you are here to make friends so involve yourself, no matter what the subject is.
It’s not just enough to talk to as many people as you can, make sure that you smile or greet them when you meet the next time. Otherwise all the effort which you had taken to talk to them the first time is just a waste.
Keep yourself neat and clean. Dress properly, this doesn’t mean you have to put on the best designer clothes. Go for casual clothes that you are comfortable with.
Don’t act over smart or dumb. I know you are both excited and nervous but don’t let others know that.
Friendship is a two way street
Be there for her whenever she needs your help. This would definitely help in strengthening your relation. Be helpful and grateful and never take your friends for granted.
Join like minded people
If you are as shy type guy and if your friend is a complete extrovert then eventually you might find it tiring trying to match him. Find like minded people so that you can be happy at what you do.
Don’t limit your friendship to just the classroom. Get to know each other well. Ask her out for a lunch, movie or a coffee. Find your common interest.
It’s not easy to find a true friend but if you be a true one, then it is not that difficult too.
If you’re at college, you are likely to make a lot of friends. Amal has written an article about the different types of friends you’ll make in college for sure. Go read it.