Do You Really Know How Infatuation Is Different From Love?
Teenage is such a happy age! You’re growing up, experiencing new things, making the same mistakes again and again, tripping and falling, making your own ways. Teenage marks important experiences in life that shape our future experiences as well.
It is also the time we start experiencing tingling sensations for the opposite sex and when we start to fall in love. We are often left confused when things don’t work out, it pains and we begin to wonder why people like to fall in love so much when it’s nothing but a confusing and painful concept.
Love can hurt. Love can make you happy. But do you truly understand what love really is?
If I’d known this when I was a teen, I’d have been able to make better decisions in my life but well, I guess mistakes are what a person does truly learn from. And I’m not talking about just the romantic kind of love, I’m also talking about the kind of love you share with your siblings, parents and best-friends.
Let’s start with the romantic kind of love. What is it really? An 18-year old I would say, “It’s when you can’t stop smiling at the sight of your beloved and there are butterflies in your stomach the whole time. Its feeling good and complete. ” Did you notice how much of it was attributed to ‘feelings’? Let me wrap this up for you.
Love isn’t about feelings or feeling good. Love is a pure intent of care. Simple. It is not about getting butterflies in your stomach or finding the right one. It is about caring for your partner and being the right one yourself. It also isn’t about having another person to complete you but to be whole in yourself and share this wholeness with another person.
All of this is only possible by a constant practice of self-love. By practicing self-love, you become complete in your own self and then you can share this love with this other person. This kind of love is realistic, isn’t dependent on the other half of the relationship to meet their emotional or physical needs, respects the need for space and time and is ready to let go if situations demand so.
Real love starts where infatuation ends. It offers pain and demands a lot of hard work. It isn’t easy but worth it. It demands restructuring of your beliefs and it isn’t at all fun and games.
The point of I writing this post was that the sooner you realize the difference between love and infatuation, between idealizing someone and truly caring for them, the sooner you’ll be able to see life from a more realistic perspective.
However, shifts occur through a lifetime and as you grow old, you’ll have your own items on this list of differences. Remember, the love that arises from a self-deficit will only make you feel void-er.
You can do better than that.